6 Phrases to Calm a Child in Pain

You don’t need complicated sentences or special training. Sometimes, even a simple “Ouch” can go a long way. What else can we say to show a child that we’re in this together? Have a look through to the end—if even one sentence resonates with you, it’s worth keeping in your back pocket. ;-)

“Ouch!”

→ This simple word lets the child know that we see their pain as real.

“Show me where it hurts.”

→ When we invite children to describe the location of their pain, we show them that their feelings matter and that we want to help.

“Don’t worry, I’m not going anywhere. I’m right here with you.”

→ Reassuring a child that we’re staying by their side shows that we’re sharing in their pain—and that they’re not alone.

“Tell me what it feels like.”

→ Encouraging a child to express their emotions helps them feel supported and less isolated.

“Let me know when the worst part is over.”

→ When we ask a child to track the pain, we’re helping them see that pain is temporary—it won’t last forever.

“Count with me.”

→ Counting aloud helps regulate breathing. When we breathe together, we become a calm, steady partner in their pain—and reinforce that they don’t have to face their illness alone.

Let’s talk with children about how they feel. Let’s reassure them we’re here for them. Let’s show them we care—and that we take their pain, fear, and uncertainty seriously.